So you say....OT

I was having a convo with my mom the other day about me, baby and healthy weight gain, and she told me that I talk so much about losing weight and being a healthy size that she feels I am getting obsessed with losing weigh.  She even went to the extent of calling me anorexic (sp) Pre op I weighed 330lbs.  Post op pre pregnancy I weighed 205 post pregnancy I dropped to 189 then have slowly climbed to 199 (which is where I am currently).  I told her after the baby is born, I want to do a 5DPT and get myself back on track and bring myself to a final weight of 175 if at all possible.  She then went on to tell me that when i was 190ish I looked sick. and I didnt need to lose anymore weight.  I dont get it!!  

Why does everyone think Im trying to be super model thin, Im really not, I just feel better at 190 or lower, and would love to get the scale far enough away from 190 that I dont have to worry about weighing myself everyday.

i know i have some issues to work out, like head hunger and of course pregnancy weight gain, but....jeez....

Thanks for reading, I just needed to vent!

 I think all of us are weight obsessed to a point.  I also think that to our friends and family that see us regularly... our weight loss is drastic.  So getting down under 200 really shows and its quite the contrast to being 300+.  i know when I was 145 everyone was telling me i was way too thin and needed to eat more.  i think a lot of that has to do with the skin getting all saggy and then after your weight stabilizes.. it bounces back up a bit.. which makes your face look a bit better.

She's probably just not used to seeing you so thin so it just looks SUPER thin to her. My hubby thinks I'm skin and bones and I still weigh about 200 (but I'm 6 feet tall!). Granted I have about 30 pounds of extra skin, but that would still just put me at right about normal weight for my height. I think it's just that those closest to us got used to seeing a bigger version of us and they're not accustomed to this thinner version yet and it probably DOES seem weird to them or that we're TOO thin.

How tall are you? 175 doesn't seem unreasonable at all unless you're like 7 feet tall, but I seriously doubt that! LOL As long as YOU are comfortable with your weight, that's all that should matter. Just be confident with your decision about what weight you want to be. But please don't try to lose weight while pregnant though......although I'm not saying that you're trying to. You'll get any extra weight off that you gain during the pregnancy. I wish my butt would gain some weight this pregnancy! LOL

Good luck to you. Don't let others comments bother you so much. They are just opinions and not how it really IS.

sorry forgive me but what is a 5DPT..so many abbreviations I am lost sometimes here

5 day pouch test...to get back on track w/eating correctly...and show yourself that your pouch is still there doing it's job.

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ahhh ok ...lol... I want to do that too...I am really concerned about my pouch...and if i have ruined it or not. I still cannot eat what I ate before surgery...I just want to get back on track asap....after little Iley is born...4 weeks left yeahhhh..
seems like i have forgotten what i did or how i ate before and i did a silly thing by throwing out my journals thinking I knew what i was doing. I guess I could call my NUT which I have not seen since my pregnancy started...just did not seem like she was much help. anyway...good luck

im 5'9''
not trying to lose weight while pregnant, and would love to lose it all and then some after the baby is done nursing.

thanks for the response!!

Hiya!

Isn't is so painful when those are supposed to love and support us no matter what cannot handle when we change so drastically?

I have gone through exactly what you are going through with your Mom...but my situation was with my sister.  Now my sister is my best friend...we have more fun with each other than with anyone else in our lives.  But, before my surgery, we were both overweight.  Then I lost weight and the green-eyed monster reared its ugly head in my sister.  She has called me too thin, anorexic (and meant it in a way to imply that I look horrible).  She even told me a couple months ago that I was starving the baby to death.  How horrible is that!!  Especially since I could NOT be eating more crap and have gained, in my opinion, far too much weight already.

I know it is hurtful but try to be patient with your Mom.  It is hard for her to see you so differently and I am sure she does not *intend* to be malicious.  Of COURSE we are obsessed with weight.  You do not re-arrange your intestines and not be a little weight-obsessed! ;-)  I think your weight is great!  I bet you look great and, most importantly, if you FEEL great, that is what matters.

Glad you were able to vent!

Hugs,
Jersey